Why do we make promises?
We make promises with people to give them confidence in you, that you will do what they have asked.When someone promises you something, you expect them to fulfill it. When you promise someone something, you should do so with the intent to follow through with it.
So why don't people keep promises?
I don't know exactly why... It's different for everyone. When I make a promise to do something I do my best to fulfill it. Now, granted, sometimes the promise you made is harder to keep than you thought, and you can't kep it. But at least you made the effort. You put in all the work or effort you could, but something was stopping you. But what about the easy promises. You promise someone that you will help them.. you promise them that you will be kind to them.... you promise to do something, like accompany them to something they are nervous about. you promise to comfort them when they need you, you promise to be there for them.... why are these so hard to keep?
Selfish people need a selfish answer... Unselfish people need no answer, because they would kep the promise they made you.
I sometimes wonder why people get your hopes up for something when they don't intent to follow through. when you make a promise to someone, they count on you. so do what you say.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Why Dating Sucks... AND... Things those guys and girls want you to know
Let me tell you why dating sucks.
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak... and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks. Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me.... Guys... when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time. and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)... its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!! we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend! well.... ya did.
yep hearbreak. the third reason dating sucks. you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens... difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you... what ever the reason is... and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again.... which we all know is a complete lie! but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama.... you meet a guy that you like and that likes you... perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed..... but you really like the guy! what do you do? UMMM.... let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea! thats all i have to say....
ok so there are more reasons but im going to stop there.... and continue with things girls want guys to know.
1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work.... just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you... or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them. a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind. its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.
Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work. just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls, Guys hate it when you complain about your looks... They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"... and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you" you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy, whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time but it gets annoying... just pick something.
Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....
Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!
have a wonderful day!!
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak... and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks. Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me.... Guys... when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time. and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)... its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!! we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend! well.... ya did.
yep hearbreak. the third reason dating sucks. you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens... difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you... what ever the reason is... and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again.... which we all know is a complete lie! but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama.... you meet a guy that you like and that likes you... perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed..... but you really like the guy! what do you do? UMMM.... let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea! thats all i have to say....
ok so there are more reasons but im going to stop there.... and continue with things girls want guys to know.
1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work.... just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you... or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them. a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind. its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.
Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work. just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls, Guys hate it when you complain about your looks... They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"... and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you" you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy, whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time but it gets annoying... just pick something.
Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....
Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!
have a wonderful day!!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Here it Goes....
Alrighty.... so blogging is a new experience for me and I honestly have no idea what I plan on posting here yet, but I couldn't create a blog and not post anything on it. Let me just tell you about my day so far which actually started last night.
Last night my dad and I took my car into the shop to have the front end alignment fixed, a couple weeks ago I hit a curb and messed it up. This morning I woke up with no desire to go to school, and the fact that I didn't have a car to get me to the train station or the U of U campus made it a whole lot easier for me to not go. I walked upstairs from my bedroom to be greeted by my dad, who asked me why I wasn't at school. I never have a good excuse so I wont even bother telling you what I said to him. He told me the car people called and that, apparently, I had done a lot more than just mess up the alignment. My $40 fix has now turned into a $600 fix because I need to have the ball-joints replaced. Oh what a joyous moment that was, especially after just quitting my job so I could focus more on school. Now what am I supposed to do? I guess I'll be looking for a new job... Or try to get my shifts back at the place I quit. Well I guess I'll just have to see what happens. Wish me luck!
Last night my dad and I took my car into the shop to have the front end alignment fixed, a couple weeks ago I hit a curb and messed it up. This morning I woke up with no desire to go to school, and the fact that I didn't have a car to get me to the train station or the U of U campus made it a whole lot easier for me to not go. I walked upstairs from my bedroom to be greeted by my dad, who asked me why I wasn't at school. I never have a good excuse so I wont even bother telling you what I said to him. He told me the car people called and that, apparently, I had done a lot more than just mess up the alignment. My $40 fix has now turned into a $600 fix because I need to have the ball-joints replaced. Oh what a joyous moment that was, especially after just quitting my job so I could focus more on school. Now what am I supposed to do? I guess I'll be looking for a new job... Or try to get my shifts back at the place I quit. Well I guess I'll just have to see what happens. Wish me luck!
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