Its funny sometimes when you're talking to someone, and they mention that before they really got to know you they had a completely different opinion of you, or that they heard random things about you that weren't true.... sometimes that's funny right?...Sometimes it's not.
It's really important to get to know someone on their own, without listening to the judgmental people in the world who will tell you false things about them.
Story: a couple days ago I was talking with a guy I quite like, who actually likes me too. While talking he told me that he heard from someone that he needed to stay away from me, and to be careful around me, because I'm not a good person. He refuses to tell me who told him this, and it frustrates me. After telling me this, he said he just needed to make sure I was a good person because he doesn't want me to bring him down. I totally understand that that would be a concern of his, after hearing from someone that he needs to stay away from me. I figure the person that told him this has a personal vendetta against me because I honestly have no idea what they were talking about. It's very frustrating to find out that people see you a certain way, that is completely opposite of how you are. And it bothers me that someone would be so judgmental. I've now also been freaking out about who said it because i want to punch them in the face.... he wont tell me who told him that.
It is very important to formulate your own opinions about people and should not rely on other peoples information to determine what kind of person someone is. That is judgment based of nothing, and its completely absurd.
This goes for all things. Its important to try things out for a while before developing an opinion on them. I had just moved singles wards and was very upset, because I loved my old ward and Hated this new one. Today in church, something changed. I really like my ward now. Im not sure what made me change my mind exactly but im much happier about the change. Some things take time to like, and somethings you just need to try out. And then with people. you just gotta get to know them. dont let other peoples views of someone affect how you view someone.
Showing posts with label Boys. Show all posts
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Sunday, June 12, 2011
Friday, May 20, 2011
What A Night...
OK! so, last night was quite the interesting one. It started out me getting called a creep by two of the girls I was hanging out with last night. Why? Oh, because I was parked in the parking lot we decided to meet in. Nice, eh? We had planned to go dancing at this dry club in Salt Lake, Country swing dancing.. Funnest ever! I really do not like country music that much, but country swing dancing is fantastic. Anyway, once everyone got there, a girl pointed out that for our Singles Stake activity everyone was going bowling so we should stop by there first. So we agreed, but we all wanted to go dancing. Once there, she realized she couldn't bowl because she didn't have socks. So we went back on the idea of dancing. but she still wanted socks so I made a stop to walmart for her, so she could get some socks. We finally made it to dancing and it was one of the funnest nights dancing i have had in a long time. I Love Studio. I danced a lot, and did a bunch of cool lifts. It was fun :). A guy asked me for my number, and he was pretty cool. I don't think I'll hang out with him outside of dancing anytime soon though. Then one guy who I've known since i was 16 or 17, finally apologized for being an idiot. Hopefully he will stop talking to me all together because I have had it with guys like him. We left at around 1:15 am. it was a really good dancing night. On the way home I got pulled over. Freaked me out!!! I had never been pulled over before and didn't really know what to do. He Pulled me over 1:30 am In the Pouring rain.... Why? because my license plate light was out... Who notices that? Oh well, he was nice, but I was definitely freaked out. I couldn't find my little insurance card thing either. Because apparently cops need to see that when you get pulled over. But he let it slide. Scary!! Sheesh.. I am not a fan of cops.
Saturday, May 14, 2011
The things on my mind at 4am
OK so since I've moved back home I've discovered a few things
First~ no matter how old you are, if you live under your parents roof, they are in control. and that's been a tough thing for me to grasp. I've spent the last 4 months doing what ever I wanted, coming home whenever, spending my time with whoever. I'm back at my parents house and I can't go anywhere without talking to them first, to let them know where i am going and who i am with, hoping they approve, and when I'll be back (default answer: midnight... am I ever home then? no.) I'm quite the rebellious child, aren't I? I've decided I don' do well being told what to do, my grades were astronomically better this semester living away from home, than last semester when i lived at home.
Second~ Boys with trucks are no good. Ha this ones kind of a joke, and I've known it for a while. I met a couple guys at my singles ward a couple months ago that are way awesome, and they both have trucks and like to go offroading a lot! Everytime we go off-rdoading something bad happens, which is to be expected because we chose the stupidest times to go. Like tonight one of them called me and invited me to go, and I said sure, of course! haha after hanging up the phone I realized it was already 12:30 at night. oh well right? ha! so he picked me up and we went out to the mountain to meet up with our other friends with the other truck. we decide to get a head start and head up the mountain. Once we are near the top we turn off to the side to check out the view of the city (way pretty i wish i had taken a picture) and then when we try leaving we realize we are stuck. It takes about an hour to get out, after we enlist the help of a 4runner and our friend Daves truck. I was just praying that i wouldn't die there. It was fun though, and well worth the time of getting home at 3:30 in the morning (probably shouldn't tell my parents).
Third~ I am still very much in love with my ex. I'm really glad he doesn't know what my blog is (at least im praying he doesn't) because this would be very awkward if he read it. Every single thing I see or hear or do reminds me of him, and it makes me miss him and want to be with him more than ever. He and I are still pretty good friends but we've kept our distance since we stopped dating. I have pictures of us everywhere (you'll notice some posted on my page-- grad pic and the one by the waterfall). I see a cloud that looks like anything and almost burst into tears. I see stars and think of him. I have to go hiking by myself now, because I refuse to share that with anyone else but him, same with star gazing. I hear the song "only one in color"by trapt and cry because it reminds me of him, and his color blindness. I hear the band "fun" and think of him. every song reminds me of him, every movie. All I want is one last chance with him but I feel I will never get it. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have built an amazing testimony of Jesus Christ, while spending time with him. I have bettered myself to be with him, and want to continue to have that. Hes amazing and will be an amazing missionary. He leaves for Peru in a few weeks to serve an LDS mission and I'm so happy for him. He will do wonders for the people there. And they are very blessed to have him.... I am very blessed to have him. I wish I could tell him how i feel, but that would be very unfair, and he has more important things to focus on. anyway, I love him, and he will never know it. Unless by some miracle he wants me backwhen he gets back, in 2 years. I have a big problem attached to my undying love for him. I have a good friend who i had taken an interest in a while back, who has now taken an interest in me. (hes the one with the truck) hes very sweet and in all honesty i should like him, but i can't because im so tied down to my ex. HELP!!!
I also found that when you have very few friends, time goes by really slow. Three of my best friends are getting married this summer and I miss them a ton, i already never see them. I'm also really not enjoying have friends that just live all over the state, because I met them at school and at the end of the year we had to part our separate ways. But on the bright side my brother will be home in 50 days, which will be the first time I will have seen him in two years, and then 11 days later we leave for Florida, and then from there we get on our cruise! its going to be awesome! ill be sure to Let y'all know how amazing that vacay will be. But most of all I'm excited to get back to school, and move into my new apartment and start my awesome classes. Oh and hopefully find a job! I guess I do have a lot going on this summer. Its going to be quite an adventure.
(i also realized that when i blog, i miss capitalization's and have terrible grammar, I hope that doesn't annoy anyone)
First~ no matter how old you are, if you live under your parents roof, they are in control. and that's been a tough thing for me to grasp. I've spent the last 4 months doing what ever I wanted, coming home whenever, spending my time with whoever. I'm back at my parents house and I can't go anywhere without talking to them first, to let them know where i am going and who i am with, hoping they approve, and when I'll be back (default answer: midnight... am I ever home then? no.) I'm quite the rebellious child, aren't I? I've decided I don' do well being told what to do, my grades were astronomically better this semester living away from home, than last semester when i lived at home.
Second~ Boys with trucks are no good. Ha this ones kind of a joke, and I've known it for a while. I met a couple guys at my singles ward a couple months ago that are way awesome, and they both have trucks and like to go offroading a lot! Everytime we go off-rdoading something bad happens, which is to be expected because we chose the stupidest times to go. Like tonight one of them called me and invited me to go, and I said sure, of course! haha after hanging up the phone I realized it was already 12:30 at night. oh well right? ha! so he picked me up and we went out to the mountain to meet up with our other friends with the other truck. we decide to get a head start and head up the mountain. Once we are near the top we turn off to the side to check out the view of the city (way pretty i wish i had taken a picture) and then when we try leaving we realize we are stuck. It takes about an hour to get out, after we enlist the help of a 4runner and our friend Daves truck. I was just praying that i wouldn't die there. It was fun though, and well worth the time of getting home at 3:30 in the morning (probably shouldn't tell my parents).
Third~ I am still very much in love with my ex. I'm really glad he doesn't know what my blog is (at least im praying he doesn't) because this would be very awkward if he read it. Every single thing I see or hear or do reminds me of him, and it makes me miss him and want to be with him more than ever. He and I are still pretty good friends but we've kept our distance since we stopped dating. I have pictures of us everywhere (you'll notice some posted on my page-- grad pic and the one by the waterfall). I see a cloud that looks like anything and almost burst into tears. I see stars and think of him. I have to go hiking by myself now, because I refuse to share that with anyone else but him, same with star gazing. I hear the song "only one in color"by trapt and cry because it reminds me of him, and his color blindness. I hear the band "fun" and think of him. every song reminds me of him, every movie. All I want is one last chance with him but I feel I will never get it. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I have built an amazing testimony of Jesus Christ, while spending time with him. I have bettered myself to be with him, and want to continue to have that. Hes amazing and will be an amazing missionary. He leaves for Peru in a few weeks to serve an LDS mission and I'm so happy for him. He will do wonders for the people there. And they are very blessed to have him.... I am very blessed to have him. I wish I could tell him how i feel, but that would be very unfair, and he has more important things to focus on. anyway, I love him, and he will never know it. Unless by some miracle he wants me backwhen he gets back, in 2 years. I have a big problem attached to my undying love for him. I have a good friend who i had taken an interest in a while back, who has now taken an interest in me. (hes the one with the truck) hes very sweet and in all honesty i should like him, but i can't because im so tied down to my ex. HELP!!!
I also found that when you have very few friends, time goes by really slow. Three of my best friends are getting married this summer and I miss them a ton, i already never see them. I'm also really not enjoying have friends that just live all over the state, because I met them at school and at the end of the year we had to part our separate ways. But on the bright side my brother will be home in 50 days, which will be the first time I will have seen him in two years, and then 11 days later we leave for Florida, and then from there we get on our cruise! its going to be awesome! ill be sure to Let y'all know how amazing that vacay will be. But most of all I'm excited to get back to school, and move into my new apartment and start my awesome classes. Oh and hopefully find a job! I guess I do have a lot going on this summer. Its going to be quite an adventure.
(i also realized that when i blog, i miss capitalization's and have terrible grammar, I hope that doesn't annoy anyone)
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
There's an App for that
So apple coined this little phrase, "there's an app for that" a long time ago when they first came out with the iphone, and it really didnt seem like they had that many apps... but now there is literally an app for everything imaginable. I have an Iphone 3GS, and when Im not doing anything (or just just feel like multi tasking) im doing one or more of these three things. 1-texting 2- facebook 3- talking to a bunch of random girls about religion on an app I have for tracking periods... Yes I'm aware. I have no life. But I've made some pretty good friends on there, even though I don't know them, and I'm pretty sure they will all attest that once you start using the forums, its almost impossible to stop, especially for me if i feel like i can help someone. Also I'm kind of an outspoken person and like to give my opinions :) It's quite an addiction... I know im not the Only one wasting time on there. Im thinking about taking a break from it for a while, hopefully the other mormon girls can handle themselves without me. ;) Jk .
Back to the whole app thing. why is there not an app for Blogspot? it would be way successful!! i would totally use it, because that means i have one less reason to use my computer. Although i still have to do homework on it.
Short digression--- what ind of professor assigns homework to be due during spring break???? its so ridiculous! i think i have an assignment due today and its my spring break, yeah im angry...
thats all i had to say about that. now ill continue to digress to other things about my life right now.
Hopefully he doesnt read this cuz id feel pretty bad, anyway.... so there was this guy that i had een hanging out with recently, i really liked him, and he said he liked me. a couple days before he left for a mexican cruise for spring break... with my roommates... he tells me he really likes me, but isnt over his ex, whom he was engaged to... and that he had a dream about us and then him seeing his ex, and leaving me for her.... ouch... yeah im depressed. but if that wasnt all for bad luck with guys that week. Just a couple days before that my best friend who I had dated for a while asked me to join him for dinner (hes the one in my grad picture on the bottom of this page) so we met up for dinner and had a good time, after he said he needed to talk to me, and said that he noticed that there were still pictures of us on facebook, and i eplained how we were still friends so i didnt see a problem. he then said that was fine but wanted to make sure i knew that nothing would ever happen between us again, and that he no longer had feelings for me..... who says that?!?!?!?! gosh! it made me so mad! im over it now but i wanted to post it because its completely ridiculous.
Also, for spring break i couldnt go on the Cruise with my roommates, so i went home instead, thinking it would be warmer than where i go to school... it snowed yesterday. so much for that,
GEEZ!!! i really wanna go to the beach
I hope you all enjoyed my ranting
lindsey :)
Back to the whole app thing. why is there not an app for Blogspot? it would be way successful!! i would totally use it, because that means i have one less reason to use my computer. Although i still have to do homework on it.
Short digression--- what ind of professor assigns homework to be due during spring break???? its so ridiculous! i think i have an assignment due today and its my spring break, yeah im angry...
thats all i had to say about that. now ill continue to digress to other things about my life right now.
Hopefully he doesnt read this cuz id feel pretty bad, anyway.... so there was this guy that i had een hanging out with recently, i really liked him, and he said he liked me. a couple days before he left for a mexican cruise for spring break... with my roommates... he tells me he really likes me, but isnt over his ex, whom he was engaged to... and that he had a dream about us and then him seeing his ex, and leaving me for her.... ouch... yeah im depressed. but if that wasnt all for bad luck with guys that week. Just a couple days before that my best friend who I had dated for a while asked me to join him for dinner (hes the one in my grad picture on the bottom of this page) so we met up for dinner and had a good time, after he said he needed to talk to me, and said that he noticed that there were still pictures of us on facebook, and i eplained how we were still friends so i didnt see a problem. he then said that was fine but wanted to make sure i knew that nothing would ever happen between us again, and that he no longer had feelings for me..... who says that?!?!?!?! gosh! it made me so mad! im over it now but i wanted to post it because its completely ridiculous.
Also, for spring break i couldnt go on the Cruise with my roommates, so i went home instead, thinking it would be warmer than where i go to school... it snowed yesterday. so much for that,
GEEZ!!! i really wanna go to the beach
I hope you all enjoyed my ranting
lindsey :)
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Red Flags
I sometimes worry that I'm going to post something that offends someone, because I have days when really crappy things happen, and I really want to post it. I probably should, but I'd feel bad if the way someone found out I was mad at them was over my blog, but honestly, if he doesnt know I'm upset by now, then he probably won't care enough to read this, I'm pretty sure no one reads these anyway.... So here i go
After dating a couple different guys, and hanging out with some guys who I thought were awesome, I realized that I end up with a lot of jerks. And yet it takes me a while to really give up on them, I'm a firm believer that everyone has some good in them, I've also found that thats mostly true. But I've also found that "some good" isn's always enough. I now look back at some of these weird relationships (or whatever they were) and realize that there were red flags everywhere, that should have told me that this guy was a jerk, or waste of time, or liar, or whatever they were.. most of the time they fit into multiple categories.
I've decided to post a couple of the red flags that I've seen most often in guys I've dated, there are flags everywhere, and there are a lot of them, some more subtle than others. But these are just a few of the more obvious ones that I've noticed.
1. They ignore you when they are with their friends. If you are dating someone, I think its normal to expect at least some aknowledgement of your presence. I also think it's normal to expect them to talk to you when they are with their friends. If a guy is too absorbed in his guy friends to talk to the girl he is supposedly dating then that could be a red flag.
2. They don't tell their friends that you're dating. Unless there's a reason that you've talked about as to why he won't tell his friends about you, he's hiding something. Or is embarrassed. I don't think it matters. He's not worth the time.
3. He doesn't stick up for you if his friends say something mean or bad directly to you, and it's clear its upsetting to you. Guys who won't stand up to their friends for you, are putting their relationship with their friends before your relationship. Now sometimes its ok. because its understadable that guys are just jerks sometimes, but if they dont say anything at all to them about it, it could be a red flag.
4. They don't vocalize certain things. I've dated guys who would only tell me they liked me through text, or would only say cute things to me through a text. Now it could be because they are shy, but thats not what I've discovered. I also dated a guy for quite a long time, that i really liked, who did not tell me he liked me in person or in message form at all... He told his friends he liked me, but not once did he say it to me. Things obviously ended. I'm not sure what exactly it is... its not good though.
5. The guy is just mean! obviously.. I'd hope this doesnt need explaining.
So there ya go, there are lots more which will be posted in the future.
Now that I've listed bad things, remember that there are good things too, like any guy that will pause his game of call of duty, or halo to respond to a text message! thats a good sign... things are different for everyone, so go out and find what those good signs are!!! its an adventure! not always the best. but an adventure all the same.
After dating a couple different guys, and hanging out with some guys who I thought were awesome, I realized that I end up with a lot of jerks. And yet it takes me a while to really give up on them, I'm a firm believer that everyone has some good in them, I've also found that thats mostly true. But I've also found that "some good" isn's always enough. I now look back at some of these weird relationships (or whatever they were) and realize that there were red flags everywhere, that should have told me that this guy was a jerk, or waste of time, or liar, or whatever they were.. most of the time they fit into multiple categories.
I've decided to post a couple of the red flags that I've seen most often in guys I've dated, there are flags everywhere, and there are a lot of them, some more subtle than others. But these are just a few of the more obvious ones that I've noticed.
1. They ignore you when they are with their friends. If you are dating someone, I think its normal to expect at least some aknowledgement of your presence. I also think it's normal to expect them to talk to you when they are with their friends. If a guy is too absorbed in his guy friends to talk to the girl he is supposedly dating then that could be a red flag.
2. They don't tell their friends that you're dating. Unless there's a reason that you've talked about as to why he won't tell his friends about you, he's hiding something. Or is embarrassed. I don't think it matters. He's not worth the time.
3. He doesn't stick up for you if his friends say something mean or bad directly to you, and it's clear its upsetting to you. Guys who won't stand up to their friends for you, are putting their relationship with their friends before your relationship. Now sometimes its ok. because its understadable that guys are just jerks sometimes, but if they dont say anything at all to them about it, it could be a red flag.
4. They don't vocalize certain things. I've dated guys who would only tell me they liked me through text, or would only say cute things to me through a text. Now it could be because they are shy, but thats not what I've discovered. I also dated a guy for quite a long time, that i really liked, who did not tell me he liked me in person or in message form at all... He told his friends he liked me, but not once did he say it to me. Things obviously ended. I'm not sure what exactly it is... its not good though.
5. The guy is just mean! obviously.. I'd hope this doesnt need explaining.
So there ya go, there are lots more which will be posted in the future.
Now that I've listed bad things, remember that there are good things too, like any guy that will pause his game of call of duty, or halo to respond to a text message! thats a good sign... things are different for everyone, so go out and find what those good signs are!!! its an adventure! not always the best. but an adventure all the same.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Why Dating Sucks... AND... Things those guys and girls want you to know
Let me tell you why dating sucks.
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak... and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks. Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me.... Guys... when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time. and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)... its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!! we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend! well.... ya did.
yep hearbreak. the third reason dating sucks. you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens... difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you... what ever the reason is... and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again.... which we all know is a complete lie! but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama.... you meet a guy that you like and that likes you... perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed..... but you really like the guy! what do you do? UMMM.... let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea! thats all i have to say....
ok so there are more reasons but im going to stop there.... and continue with things girls want guys to know.
1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work.... just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you... or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them. a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind. its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.
Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work. just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls, Guys hate it when you complain about your looks... They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"... and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you" you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy, whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time but it gets annoying... just pick something.
Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....
Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!
have a wonderful day!!
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak... and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks. Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me.... Guys... when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time. and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)... its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!! we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend! well.... ya did.
yep hearbreak. the third reason dating sucks. you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens... difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you... what ever the reason is... and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again.... which we all know is a complete lie! but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama.... you meet a guy that you like and that likes you... perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed..... but you really like the guy! what do you do? UMMM.... let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea! thats all i have to say....
ok so there are more reasons but im going to stop there.... and continue with things girls want guys to know.
1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work.... just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you... or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them. a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind. its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.
Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work. just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls, Guys hate it when you complain about your looks... They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"... and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you" you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy, whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time but it gets annoying... just pick something.
Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....
Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!
have a wonderful day!!
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