Sunday, November 14, 2010

Why Dating Sucks... AND... Things those guys and girls want you to know

Let me tell you why dating sucks.
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak...  and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
 Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks.  Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me....  Guys...  when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time.  and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)...  its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!!  we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend!  well....  ya did.
yep hearbreak.  the third reason dating sucks.  you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens...  difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you...  what ever the reason is...  and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again....  which we all know is a complete lie!  but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama....  you meet a guy that you like and that likes you...  perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed.....  but you really like the guy!  what do you do?  UMMM....  let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea!  thats all i have to say....
ok  so there are more reasons  but im going to stop there....  and continue with things girls want guys to know.

1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work....  just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you...  or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them.  a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind.  its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.

Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work.  just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls,  Guys hate it when you complain about your looks...   They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"...  and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you"  you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy,  whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time  but it gets annoying...  just pick something.

Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....


Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!

have a wonderful day!!

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