Yes, I know that new years (why do we put the "s" on this? i dont understand.. is that even right?) resolutions are completely cliche and are maybe kept by 45% of the people that make them (yes I made that number up), but ya kinda have to make some sort of resolution to improve yourself some way. My resolutions for 2010 were:
1. write in my journal at least once a week. i need to better document whats going on im my life.
2. limit myself to one cheeseburger or less, a week... i have to kick this craving.. no i think its an addiction.
3. do my homework the day it is assigned, with exception on mondays, because of work... basically get my homework done soon so im not pulling an all nighter trying to finish it.
4. ok heres the one thats gonna kill me. eat healthy. three square meals a day. no more skipping breakfast. this means im going to have to wake up earlier... oh joy.
well... heres the update on how well i did 1- I started out writing everyday, but my life was only interesting when i had freinds or a boyfriend and did things worth writing in my journal. I had a hard time making friends in high school but i actually finished my senior year with some of the best friends a girl could ask for. and did have a whole lot more to write as the year when on... but I still missed weeks sometimes....
2- I totally kicked this addiction!!!!! for so long i had a terrible addiction to cheeseburgers and I succeeded in not eating them as often! It was a wonderful feeling! i felt so much healthier! after i stopped.
3-.... eh im a totaly procrastinator.... this one was a total fail!!!
4- i tried really hard to get up early to eat breakfast, but everytime I got sick... bad!! ugh ill have to try to get used to breakfast again because skipping meals is just not healthy.
So over all I basically failed... 25% success... (real number). Im going to try again with the resolutions and just see how they go.
NEW YEARS RESOLUTION 2011!
Well because I failed those other ones, I'm going to try them again..
1. Write in my journal at least once a week. it is very important to me to keep track of my life, so i can learn from past experienes
2. Eat three meals a day.... I have a tendancy to skip meals a lot, and its not healthy, I want to be as healthy as I can be
3. Do my homework in a timely manner... NO MORE PROCRASTINATION!! I see this being a lot more difficult because I'm transfering schools this semester and will be moving out of my parents house.... but I'm going to do my best. i want to do well in school
4. Become more active... yeah im pretty sure everyone and theyre dog makes this a resolution.. to excersise more, lose weight.. blah blah blah, but its actually a god resolution, health is important.
5. Not miss any of my classes... calculus 2, 7:30 monday tuesday wednesday friday... this is going to kill me but i have to go or ill fail....
6. Pass all of my classes this semester. Get help in my classes before its too late... again... I really want to do well in school.
OK folks! there they are!!! Im going to do my best! I sure hope I can do it!
Friday, December 31, 2010
Tuesday, December 21, 2010
The Reason for the Season
Well, here we are, just days from Christmas, right smack dab in the holiday season. I don't know about any of you, but it has come up so quick, and it really doesn't feel like Christmas yet. This is the first Chrismas in 11 years that I probably won't wake up to a white Christmas, and I'm a little depressed about it. But Christmas isn't about presents, or trees, or all the snow that we should expect. The meaning of Christmas lies within it's name, and it seems that through all the stress of all the buying and decorating and cooking we lose sight of what Christmas is all about-Christ. Jesus the Christ is the reason for the season. Christmas is a time to celebrate his birth and reflect on the gifts he has given us throughout the years. Charity is the pure love of Christ, I invite all of those who read this message, to remember that as you go throught your days this holiday season. Many of us are very fortunate to have what we have been given, but others do not have those same luxuries. Sometimes the greatest gift to someone is kindness. I urge all of you to show an extra kind spirit to those around you, offer a helping hand when you can, even just a smile to someone having a not-so-great day can boost their spirit. It is at this time that we should remember Christ and his charitable spirit, and try to be like him.
Luke 2:1-14
I hope you all have a wonderful holiday!
Luke 2:1-14
I hope you all have a wonderful holiday!
Saturday, December 11, 2010
Brothers
Today is my brothers 21st birthday. HAPPY BIRTHDAY COLBY!!!!
My brother is serving an LDS mission in San Antonio, Texas right now, and has been out for about 15 months. He will be home in July, and im suprisingly excited.
All growing up, we hated each other, except for the occasional times when we got a long, but there were very few times when we got along... When I was three or four he did something that obviously made me really mad, I have no idea what it was, but i remember being really mad. I waited for him to go to school and I took my moms sewing scissors and cut all of the cords to our super nintendo.... he wasnt happy. I was a devious child and he didnt like me. But he was mean, and deserved it, I think. But despite the fact that i hated him, I always wanted to be with him, doing whatever he was doing. And I loved bragging about him to my friends. But we hated each other. It wasnt untill he had left on his mission that I realized that I loved the guy. I miss having my big bro around to do things with. And I miss him bringing his cute friends over to the house haha. I try to write him every week, but I'm not very good at it, but I get so excited when his letters come in the mail! I feel like an only child because hes not here, its really weird. I used to say I wish I was an only child, but now I wouldn't trade my brother for anything!!
I've also found from my friends who have brothers who are just a couple years older or younger, that the same is true for them, well for my girl friends anyway. My guy friends say they have been best friends with their older brothers since they were born. And girls with sisters say the same thing.. but since I only have my one brother, I guess I'll never know.
Brothers are awesome though. they have a protective quality over their younger siblings that us, as the younger sibling, don't always see. Their protectiveness is shown in a different way. For my brother, he would just tell me what i was doing was stupid, or the people I hang out with were stupid. That was his way of telling me to be careful, or not hang out with certain people. I just didn't realize it until now. I just thought he was being a jerk, telling me everything in my life was stupid. great bro right?
Brothers are awesome! telll yours you love them today! Go have an adventure with them!
My brother is serving an LDS mission in San Antonio, Texas right now, and has been out for about 15 months. He will be home in July, and im suprisingly excited.
All growing up, we hated each other, except for the occasional times when we got a long, but there were very few times when we got along... When I was three or four he did something that obviously made me really mad, I have no idea what it was, but i remember being really mad. I waited for him to go to school and I took my moms sewing scissors and cut all of the cords to our super nintendo.... he wasnt happy. I was a devious child and he didnt like me. But he was mean, and deserved it, I think. But despite the fact that i hated him, I always wanted to be with him, doing whatever he was doing. And I loved bragging about him to my friends. But we hated each other. It wasnt untill he had left on his mission that I realized that I loved the guy. I miss having my big bro around to do things with. And I miss him bringing his cute friends over to the house haha. I try to write him every week, but I'm not very good at it, but I get so excited when his letters come in the mail! I feel like an only child because hes not here, its really weird. I used to say I wish I was an only child, but now I wouldn't trade my brother for anything!!
I've also found from my friends who have brothers who are just a couple years older or younger, that the same is true for them, well for my girl friends anyway. My guy friends say they have been best friends with their older brothers since they were born. And girls with sisters say the same thing.. but since I only have my one brother, I guess I'll never know.
Brothers are awesome though. they have a protective quality over their younger siblings that us, as the younger sibling, don't always see. Their protectiveness is shown in a different way. For my brother, he would just tell me what i was doing was stupid, or the people I hang out with were stupid. That was his way of telling me to be careful, or not hang out with certain people. I just didn't realize it until now. I just thought he was being a jerk, telling me everything in my life was stupid. great bro right?
Brothers are awesome! telll yours you love them today! Go have an adventure with them!
Red Flags
I sometimes worry that I'm going to post something that offends someone, because I have days when really crappy things happen, and I really want to post it. I probably should, but I'd feel bad if the way someone found out I was mad at them was over my blog, but honestly, if he doesnt know I'm upset by now, then he probably won't care enough to read this, I'm pretty sure no one reads these anyway.... So here i go
After dating a couple different guys, and hanging out with some guys who I thought were awesome, I realized that I end up with a lot of jerks. And yet it takes me a while to really give up on them, I'm a firm believer that everyone has some good in them, I've also found that thats mostly true. But I've also found that "some good" isn's always enough. I now look back at some of these weird relationships (or whatever they were) and realize that there were red flags everywhere, that should have told me that this guy was a jerk, or waste of time, or liar, or whatever they were.. most of the time they fit into multiple categories.
I've decided to post a couple of the red flags that I've seen most often in guys I've dated, there are flags everywhere, and there are a lot of them, some more subtle than others. But these are just a few of the more obvious ones that I've noticed.
1. They ignore you when they are with their friends. If you are dating someone, I think its normal to expect at least some aknowledgement of your presence. I also think it's normal to expect them to talk to you when they are with their friends. If a guy is too absorbed in his guy friends to talk to the girl he is supposedly dating then that could be a red flag.
2. They don't tell their friends that you're dating. Unless there's a reason that you've talked about as to why he won't tell his friends about you, he's hiding something. Or is embarrassed. I don't think it matters. He's not worth the time.
3. He doesn't stick up for you if his friends say something mean or bad directly to you, and it's clear its upsetting to you. Guys who won't stand up to their friends for you, are putting their relationship with their friends before your relationship. Now sometimes its ok. because its understadable that guys are just jerks sometimes, but if they dont say anything at all to them about it, it could be a red flag.
4. They don't vocalize certain things. I've dated guys who would only tell me they liked me through text, or would only say cute things to me through a text. Now it could be because they are shy, but thats not what I've discovered. I also dated a guy for quite a long time, that i really liked, who did not tell me he liked me in person or in message form at all... He told his friends he liked me, but not once did he say it to me. Things obviously ended. I'm not sure what exactly it is... its not good though.
5. The guy is just mean! obviously.. I'd hope this doesnt need explaining.
So there ya go, there are lots more which will be posted in the future.
Now that I've listed bad things, remember that there are good things too, like any guy that will pause his game of call of duty, or halo to respond to a text message! thats a good sign... things are different for everyone, so go out and find what those good signs are!!! its an adventure! not always the best. but an adventure all the same.
After dating a couple different guys, and hanging out with some guys who I thought were awesome, I realized that I end up with a lot of jerks. And yet it takes me a while to really give up on them, I'm a firm believer that everyone has some good in them, I've also found that thats mostly true. But I've also found that "some good" isn's always enough. I now look back at some of these weird relationships (or whatever they were) and realize that there were red flags everywhere, that should have told me that this guy was a jerk, or waste of time, or liar, or whatever they were.. most of the time they fit into multiple categories.
I've decided to post a couple of the red flags that I've seen most often in guys I've dated, there are flags everywhere, and there are a lot of them, some more subtle than others. But these are just a few of the more obvious ones that I've noticed.
1. They ignore you when they are with their friends. If you are dating someone, I think its normal to expect at least some aknowledgement of your presence. I also think it's normal to expect them to talk to you when they are with their friends. If a guy is too absorbed in his guy friends to talk to the girl he is supposedly dating then that could be a red flag.
2. They don't tell their friends that you're dating. Unless there's a reason that you've talked about as to why he won't tell his friends about you, he's hiding something. Or is embarrassed. I don't think it matters. He's not worth the time.
3. He doesn't stick up for you if his friends say something mean or bad directly to you, and it's clear its upsetting to you. Guys who won't stand up to their friends for you, are putting their relationship with their friends before your relationship. Now sometimes its ok. because its understadable that guys are just jerks sometimes, but if they dont say anything at all to them about it, it could be a red flag.
4. They don't vocalize certain things. I've dated guys who would only tell me they liked me through text, or would only say cute things to me through a text. Now it could be because they are shy, but thats not what I've discovered. I also dated a guy for quite a long time, that i really liked, who did not tell me he liked me in person or in message form at all... He told his friends he liked me, but not once did he say it to me. Things obviously ended. I'm not sure what exactly it is... its not good though.
5. The guy is just mean! obviously.. I'd hope this doesnt need explaining.
So there ya go, there are lots more which will be posted in the future.
Now that I've listed bad things, remember that there are good things too, like any guy that will pause his game of call of duty, or halo to respond to a text message! thats a good sign... things are different for everyone, so go out and find what those good signs are!!! its an adventure! not always the best. but an adventure all the same.
Monday, November 15, 2010
Promises
Why do we make promises?
We make promises with people to give them confidence in you, that you will do what they have asked.When someone promises you something, you expect them to fulfill it. When you promise someone something, you should do so with the intent to follow through with it.
So why don't people keep promises?
I don't know exactly why... It's different for everyone. When I make a promise to do something I do my best to fulfill it. Now, granted, sometimes the promise you made is harder to keep than you thought, and you can't kep it. But at least you made the effort. You put in all the work or effort you could, but something was stopping you. But what about the easy promises. You promise someone that you will help them.. you promise them that you will be kind to them.... you promise to do something, like accompany them to something they are nervous about. you promise to comfort them when they need you, you promise to be there for them.... why are these so hard to keep?
Selfish people need a selfish answer... Unselfish people need no answer, because they would kep the promise they made you.
I sometimes wonder why people get your hopes up for something when they don't intent to follow through. when you make a promise to someone, they count on you. so do what you say.
We make promises with people to give them confidence in you, that you will do what they have asked.When someone promises you something, you expect them to fulfill it. When you promise someone something, you should do so with the intent to follow through with it.
So why don't people keep promises?
I don't know exactly why... It's different for everyone. When I make a promise to do something I do my best to fulfill it. Now, granted, sometimes the promise you made is harder to keep than you thought, and you can't kep it. But at least you made the effort. You put in all the work or effort you could, but something was stopping you. But what about the easy promises. You promise someone that you will help them.. you promise them that you will be kind to them.... you promise to do something, like accompany them to something they are nervous about. you promise to comfort them when they need you, you promise to be there for them.... why are these so hard to keep?
Selfish people need a selfish answer... Unselfish people need no answer, because they would kep the promise they made you.
I sometimes wonder why people get your hopes up for something when they don't intent to follow through. when you make a promise to someone, they count on you. so do what you say.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
Why Dating Sucks... AND... Things those guys and girls want you to know
Let me tell you why dating sucks.
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak... and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks. Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me.... Guys... when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time. and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)... its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!! we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend! well.... ya did.
yep hearbreak. the third reason dating sucks. you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens... difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you... what ever the reason is... and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again.... which we all know is a complete lie! but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama.... you meet a guy that you like and that likes you... perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed..... but you really like the guy! what do you do? UMMM.... let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea! thats all i have to say....
ok so there are more reasons but im going to stop there.... and continue with things girls want guys to know.
1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work.... just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you... or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them. a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind. its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.
Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work. just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls, Guys hate it when you complain about your looks... They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"... and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you" you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy, whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time but it gets annoying... just pick something.
Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....
Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!
have a wonderful day!!
OK, so technically its not the actual dating that sucks, but most of the time it comes with drama and nervousness and heartbreak... and all of that does suck. unless you are weird and find heartbreak enjoyable.
Dating sucks
Reason #1: You never get asked out by the guy (or girl) you like.
Granted sometimes you do, or else no one would ever be falling in love and getting married, but the whole process of trying out all those lame guys to get there just sucks. Why can't the right person fall into our lives the moment we need them? Now yes, there are times that you can go out on a date with some one you're not actually interested in and still have a good time. But the reason they asked you out is most likely because they like you, and for some reason having a good time and being nice to a guy translates into: I love you and want you to ask me out again, or possibly even please kiss me.... Guys... when a girl is nice to you, they aren't flirting, and its time you learn the difference.
Reason #2 When you do get asked out by the guy you like its the most nerve racking experience ever.
Girls when the guy that you like asks you out for the first time, do you not freak out about everything? What do I wear? What if I say something stupid? What if he doesnt like me?... Then the end of the date comes and you freak out about everything you did, thinking that they noticed every stupid thing you did...when honestly they really don't notice.. most of the time. and now you're freaking out about when he walks you to the door, if he walks you to the door (he better, or else hes not worth your time anyway)... its just all around nervous the whole time and you can't even enjoy the date.
Reason #3 Hooray!!! we've made it past the first two and now we have a boy friend! well.... ya did.
yep hearbreak. the third reason dating sucks. you find this person that you really like and things are going great.... or so you thought... and something happens... difference of opinions, cheating, you find something out about them, they find something out about you... what ever the reason is... and then you spend the next (enter your prefered amout of time here) wallowing in self pity, crying hating your life and wanting to die. claiming you will never love again.... which we all know is a complete lie! but yeah the break up sucks...
Reason #4 Drama.
Ok so if I'm guilty for any of the things ive covered its this one. Drama!
In every relationship there has to be at least one fight, and one falling out, and ya know the girl is of course going to go to her girlfriends and tell the whole story, and blow it out of proportion because at the time youre just rally mad, and then things get worked out but your girlfriends now hate the dude youre with because you told them something that wasnt necessarily true, and they dont understand why you would ever go back to him after that.
also along with drama.... you meet a guy that you like and that likes you... perfect... oh... not perfect... hes your best friends ex, or your exs best friend or some combination of bad. where someone is going to feel betrayed..... but you really like the guy! what do you do? UMMM.... let me just say trying to keep it away from the other person is the worst possible idea! thats all i have to say....
ok so there are more reasons but im going to stop there.... and continue with things girls want guys to know.
1. Guys, Girls can't read minds. So those subtle hints don't work.... just say it.
2. Guys, Girls do not want you to ask if you can kiss them, or hold their hand... if it feels right. just do it.
3. Guys, Girls like it when you open the door for them, and walk them to the door, it makes them feel special.
4.Guys, being forward only works when the girl likes you... or at least knows you.
5. Guys, its ok to be cute with a girl, you dont lose masculinity. and along those lines its also ok to cry, it shows the girl youre sensitive and can be honest with them. a lot of girls think it is masculine.
6. Guys, if a girl says no one time, asking again doesnt change their mind. its not worth it to try to wear the girl out asking, cuz if you like them then youll be fine with their first answer.
Ok and now its the girls turn. these are things guys say they want girls to know.
1.Girls, Its ok to be independent. when you have a guy, you dont have to make them do everything with you. they are not your slave.
2. same with the guys, Subtle hints don't work. just say what youre thinking.
3. Girls, guys are stupid and say things they don't mean. its not necessary to take offense over everything.
4. Girls, Guys hate it when you complain about your looks... They know youre fishing for compliments when you say "im so fat... or Im so ugly"... and along with that... when they do compliment you, just say "thank you" you don't have to say "Ew! i am not!" when someone tells you you look good
5. Girls, just talk to the guy, whether they want to or not, communication is key.
6. Girls, guys want you to tell them what you want. when they ask what you want to do "I don't care, I just want to be with you" is cute the first time but it gets annoying... just pick something.
Guys and Gals, Keep in mind some of these things can go both ways....
Those reasons dating sucks should not keep you from dating. Adventure is out there, so go out and find it!!!
have a wonderful day!!
Thursday, November 11, 2010
Here it Goes....
Alrighty.... so blogging is a new experience for me and I honestly have no idea what I plan on posting here yet, but I couldn't create a blog and not post anything on it. Let me just tell you about my day so far which actually started last night.
Last night my dad and I took my car into the shop to have the front end alignment fixed, a couple weeks ago I hit a curb and messed it up. This morning I woke up with no desire to go to school, and the fact that I didn't have a car to get me to the train station or the U of U campus made it a whole lot easier for me to not go. I walked upstairs from my bedroom to be greeted by my dad, who asked me why I wasn't at school. I never have a good excuse so I wont even bother telling you what I said to him. He told me the car people called and that, apparently, I had done a lot more than just mess up the alignment. My $40 fix has now turned into a $600 fix because I need to have the ball-joints replaced. Oh what a joyous moment that was, especially after just quitting my job so I could focus more on school. Now what am I supposed to do? I guess I'll be looking for a new job... Or try to get my shifts back at the place I quit. Well I guess I'll just have to see what happens. Wish me luck!
Last night my dad and I took my car into the shop to have the front end alignment fixed, a couple weeks ago I hit a curb and messed it up. This morning I woke up with no desire to go to school, and the fact that I didn't have a car to get me to the train station or the U of U campus made it a whole lot easier for me to not go. I walked upstairs from my bedroom to be greeted by my dad, who asked me why I wasn't at school. I never have a good excuse so I wont even bother telling you what I said to him. He told me the car people called and that, apparently, I had done a lot more than just mess up the alignment. My $40 fix has now turned into a $600 fix because I need to have the ball-joints replaced. Oh what a joyous moment that was, especially after just quitting my job so I could focus more on school. Now what am I supposed to do? I guess I'll be looking for a new job... Or try to get my shifts back at the place I quit. Well I guess I'll just have to see what happens. Wish me luck!
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